‘Can a cheater actually grow after being unfaithful?’ : Victims of infidelity share stories of their cheating exes, sparks discussion

Elna McHilderson • Managing Editor

Mar 10, 2023 8:00 PM EST

If you have ever been cheated on then you know that gut-wrenching feeling. That moment when you realize you've been taken for a fool. Your heart drops into your stomach and you immediately start the grieving process for the relationship—denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and finally acceptance. You cannot believe that someone you trusted so much would deceive you like that. You get so upset you want to key their car. You get sad because you thought you had true love, but instead you were turned into a clown. And lastly, acceptance—where you learn, grow, and move on.

The question at hand, however, is if the person who did the cheating goes through these stages as well?

One Redditor went onto the site to rant about their cheating ex. They could not believe the audacity they had when they texted them telling them that they have "learned" from cheating on them, that they have "changed" and are a "new man." Everything about it screamed BS and she took to the internet to rant about it.

Her story, however, sparked an actual discussion on whether or not a cheater can actually change. We all know the saying, "once a cheater, always a cheater," but humans are more complicated than that. People who have been cheated on share their stories and thoughts on the question, and even cheaters themselves chime in on how they truly believe they have changed and have never and will never cheat again.

What do you think? The cheater in this stories sounds like he will never learn, but maybe that's not true for everyone? See what people had to say below.